so, i check into the blog before heading out to see dad this morning. i note that daniel's taken a moment to address my sadness that he and jonathan will end up with so much less of dad than cheryl and i had (see sept 2nd "family love, again"). turns out he feels dad's presence every time he goes to class. i don't know if he's just trying to make me feel better, but it works, sort of. but still, i think, how does HE know? you can't know to miss what you didn't have, right?
well, then tonight i run into these photos. suddenly i'm struck by the sense that maybe cheryl and i don't know what WE were missing. true, we got a dad who was in the height of his military career, and loving it. but daniel and jb got a dad who was there everyday, to teach them the little things. an axe here, a snapper there. having an older dad may mean you spend more of your adulthood without a dad physically by your side. but, from the look of these photos, it seems like dad made good use of his retirement time. seems he treasured these boys, up close. Hands on. If time is love, perhaps all of us phil bruce kids are doing okay.